Memorial Day honors those who gave their lives in service to our country. For civilians, it’s the unofficial first day of summer, often marked by family cookouts and sales on big-ticket items like cars and mattresses. For military veterans, this national holiday of remembrance brings up a complex mix of emotions that people who never served may not fully understand.

At Warrior Vets, we emphasize that veterans deserve compassionate, heartfelt understanding on this holiday.

Why Memorial Day Can Be Hard for Veterans

1. Grief and Survivor’s Guilt

Many veterans spend Memorial Day thinking about their fallen comrades. Feelings of guilt – why them and not me? – can be hard to process, even years later.

2. Reopened Wounds

The patriotism and parades surrounding Memorial Day can bring back painful memories of combat, loss, or trauma. These emotional triggers can lead to anxiety, depression, or withdrawal.

3. Feeling Misunderstood

Some veterans may feel isolated or frustrated by the commercialization of the holiday or by receiving thanks for their service on a day intended to honor the fallen.

4. Internalizing the Cost of War

Veterans often carry the invisible weight of war. Memorial Day can magnify that burden, forcing them to revisit the cost of military service in lives lost and sacrifices made.

How to Uplift a Veteran on Memorial Day

If you know a veteran, Memorial Day is a meaningful time to show your appreciation. Here are a few thoughtful and respectful ways to do that.

• Reach out: Check in with the veteran in your life. A simple text or call to say, “Thinking of you today” can go a long way.
• Listen without judgment: If they feel like sharing, let them talk about their experiences without interrupting or minimizing their emotions.
• Honor the fallen together: Attend a memorial ceremony or visit a local veterans’ cemetery. Sharing a quiet moment of remembrance can be powerful and grounding.
• Offer distraction or solitude – on their terms: Some veterans may want to talk; others may prefer to spend the day quietly reflecting. Ask them what they need and respect their answer.
• Avoid making it about celebration: Memorial Day is a solemn occasion for many who lost colleagues or friends in service to our country. Check with the veteran in your life before planning a patriotic celebration.
• Support veteran-centered organizations: Donate to or volunteer with nonprofits that serve veterans and their families. Actions often speak louder than words.

A Time for Reflection, Gratitude, and Support

Warrior Vets is proud to provide veterans with dignity and honor. We know the sacrifices you made during your time in uniform didn’t end when you reintegrated into civilian life – and that Memorial Day can be a uniquely triggering holiday. Our team of healthcare professionals offers occupational health evaluations to help you access the care and benefits you deserve.

To every veteran we’ve lost and those who are still with us, we honor your service, your sacrifice, and your strength this Memorial Day. Contact us to learn more about how we give back through comprehensive mental health screenings.